Monthly Archives: June 2013

my mom

Today is my mom’s birthday!  I won’t tell you how old she is but I will say she looks 20 years younger.  She is beautiful… blond, tan, clear skin, limited wrinkles. All I have to say on that is I am glad I look liker her (and I hope to age as beautifully as she has).

I am so lucky to have her as my mom.

She is kind.  She will listen to anyone talk about anything.  She has a knack for drawing people out.  People are so open and honest with her because she exudes a sense of caring. 

My mom has so much wisdom.  She is a woman of God.  Her prayer and faith life are inspiring.  I know that when I am struggling, I can go to my mom.  She will listen and I can trust her to give me sound advice.  She can provide scripture and prayer to get me to look towards Jesus.

My mom is awesome.  She is up for anything. Bubba and Dude love chauffeuring her around in the golf cart.  She bakes and does fun crafts and takes them on great adventures when they see her (which most definitely is not enough for any of us).

She works hard and is good at what she does (she’s been employee of the year about 37 times).  I have learned a lot from watching her work ethic. 

I can’t say thank you to my mom enough for all she has sacrificed for me.  My mom is fabulous.  And she is lucky to have me as a daughter. I am really lucky to have her.

Happy Birthday, Mom.  I love you!!

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Opinion hammer

I have thought about writing this post several times in the past year but I have always been afraid of offending someone with my “opinion hammer.”

The term opinion hammer is one that I made up (I think) but evolved from The Hubs’ loathing of the use of the “Jesus Hammer.” This is where someone is beating you over the head with their salvation message without thought or regard to your feelings or circumstances. 

As our little family becomes more involved in mission work we are more and more conscience of the Jesus Hammer.  We have both been victims of well meaning people beating us with the Jesus Hammer.  Praise the Lord for grace and mercy and giving us other opportunities to seek Him. As we plan our July mission trip to Canada we are worried about our team over using the Jesus Hammer thus closing doors to future relationships.  We are praying for kind hearts and an awareness of the people around us.

I have expanded the Jesus Hammer to be the “Opinion Hammer.” I have decided to write about it because of a Facebook post i read today. It has since been deleted so I can’t copy it here.  It was written by a friend that is a wonderful mom and passionate about the choices her family is making as they raise their children.  This post expressed her feelings about decisions we parents make/have made for our babies.  While I may agree or disagree about her opinions I was really offended in her word choice.  

It got me thinking about other opinion hammers I have seen/heard/read.  What I mean is the sharing our opinion by beating people with little sensitivity or care of who is listening. I am friends with and work with some amazing, talented, well educated, awesome people.  We have strong and well thought out opinions.  We are passionate about what we do.  We tell the world our feelings.  The way we do that, though, can be hurtful even when we don’t intend to hurt.

I can’t get on facebook or go through the blogs I follow without reading someone’s passionate thoughts on breastfeeding, natural birth, vaccinations, circumcision, homeschooling vs public schooling, exercise routines, gluten-free/vegan/atkins/caveman/fad diets, religion, politics, the environment, marriage, urban dwelling, buy that product, sell this one. etc.  You know what I mean.  Most write with passion.  Some write with facts and evidence.  Some SCREAM THEIR OPINIONS IN ALL CAPS.  Some post and repost and post a lot of variations of the same message.  Many use the opinion hammer.  Some are known to belittle and degrade the ones that don’t match their views.  

I know in my heart that all most are good people.  They come from a good place.  The root of the messages may be good and genuine.  Many, however, don’t realize how their word choices and delivery hurt. 

So what is my take away from this?   There are a several but I will stick to two. 
First of all… in the last year I have noticed that i have some strong “know-it-all” tendencies.  I can get pretty high and mighty.  I have caught myself verbally beating people with an opinion hammer.  I am working on this one. I have a long way to go.
Second… We need to choose our words wisely.  I need to work on speaking with sensitivity. I can have a strong opinion. It is also okay to share that opinion and even try to sway people to agree with my opinion.  However, I need to do so with respect, kindness, and care for the people I am specifically dealing with.  The way this is done varies as much as my friends and settings they are in.  Blanket statements are misinterpreted and cause pain.  Formulas and scripts don’t work all the time.  I guess knowing your audience (and being specific about who that is) is really important.

What do think about the “Opinion Hammer?”  

 

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summer love

Bubba and Dude are spending some time at our local YMCA’s summer day camp this summer.  I am not one of those teachers that sits at the pool working on my tan all summer long.  I’m one that works all summer (i am teaching summer school, working on math curriculum, i am on a new committee, and I work part time at a shoe store… i think I am already for school to start back up so i can slow down).

anyway… as I we were pulling into the parking lot so I could drop them off at the Y this morning I hear Dude say (in a wishful voice) “There she is…”

Me: Who?

Dude:  Miss Abby… My counselor… 

Dude is in love with an older woman.  

He reminded me of the move The Sandlot and Squints Palledorous’ his love of Wendy Peffercorn.  I am afraid he is going to jump into the deep end of the pool hoping she rescue him. I am probably going to have to hide that movie for the rest of summer… I don’t want to give Dude any ideas (because he would totally do that).

Did you have a childhood love that was way too old for you?  What kind of moves did you pull to get their attention?

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